Dare to Be Soft

I know, I know… you might have been wondering, “Where the heck is Katie? Where are her ‘weekly’ emails?” Or maybe, {hopefully!} your summer has been so packed with away-from-the-screen fun, that you’re like, “What weekly emails?”

Either way… hello again! I’m back! And honestly, I’ve thought for weeks (errr, months?) on what to share, write, and give. But here’s what happened…

As May came to a close, my intention for the summer was >>> wild.free.alive. Eeee!

But… with one phone call, my plans went out the window. My mother, who has multiple sclerosis, was back in the hospital with her health & strength deteriorated, dementia rearing it’s ugly face, a move to rehab, and then to a nursing home (again)… with Bro & I as sole caretakers and decision makers.

Travel plans were changed. Meetings rescheduled. Numerous drives between Colorado and Iowa were made. Less than 10 days this summer was spent at home. And less than that with my wild.free.alive plans. My creativity and ability to give fully and freely took a nosedive.

I kept telling myself… “This isn’t going to change my plans. I can muster through this. This is resistance. Great things come from challenges, right? Be strong, Katie. Be tough.”

And I was for a good bit. Then…

I got tired of being strong and tough. And people commending me for being strong and tough.

In a moment of clarity (or desperation), I decided I had enough hardness and toughness. And, in that declaration, I realized…

There’s a time to be strong and a time to be soft.
Both are necessary.

There are lessons to learn in the challenges we face & overcome with strength and toughness. We can develop character, find truth, gain wisdom, and ultimately feel deep joy & gratitude.

BUT – there is a part of us, a softness, which has to be turned off in order to stay strong for long periods of time. A special softness that gives birth to creativity, compassion, intuition, playfulness, ease, and some aspects of joy. A softness that allows us to feel, to experience, to be. A softness necessary for truly coming alive; for living, loving, and giving fully.

Here are 5 reminders I’ve been using for why I need to
listen & lean into softness (daily)…

>>> Leaning into your softness is not giving up or giving in. It’s owning your worth and needs. Remember… our worth is not dependent on how much we take on, accomplish, or say “yes” to.

>>> Freedom. There’s freedom in admitting when it’s hard and when you need a rest. Freedom in voicing the truth.

>>> Beauty & Humanity. There’s vulnerability, connection, love and support when you allow space for someone else to lend you her strength when you don’t have enough.

>>> Patience & Grace. In our fast-paced world it can be tough to ask others to slow down. But, it’s okay to ask for patience and grace. I’ve asked it hundreds of times this summer and it’s been granted generously with hugs and prayers.

>>> Permission. If you need rest, softness, retreat, or simply permission to say “no” or make a request, this is your permission. Right here, right now. (And don’t wait for permission next time… or wait until you are completely drained like I did.)

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Art by Emily Watz

And to showcase the beauty of community & support in the midst of it all… the kdo Team has brought together the most incredible Skinny Dip Society Blog Tour for the month of August plus an uber fun surprise I’ll be announcing next week.

Thanks for your patience & grace,


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